When planning your wedding, it should come as no surprise that you will be inundated with advice—both solicited and unsolicited. While everyone thinks that they know what is best when it comes to planning a wedding, the reality is that most don’t. It is in your best interest to listen to the advice given to you by your trusted wedding planner, remember, you did hire them to help! Ultimately, it is up to you to take the advice given to you by your coordinator or not, but here are 10 things that you should not do when planning your wedding.

1. Don’t invite more guest than you can actually afford to have attend.

Weddings can be expensive, which is why most couples establish a budget for their wedding before they begin planning. Part of the budget includes the food that will be served at the reception. Don’t be tempted to invite more guest than your budget will allow for you to be able to feed. Otherwise, all your guests will remember about your wedding was the lack of food.

2. Don’t pad your invitation list.

Padding your invitation list for the sole purpose of receiving more gifts is called “gift grabbing”. This practice is easily recognizable and is often frowned upon. Invite close friends and family and enjoy spending your special day with those closest to you. Chances are you’ll still receive a plethora of gifts, you won’t need to invite any other guests.

3. Don’t interview vendors without talking to your coordinator first.

If you are using wedding coordinators services, don’t start interviewing vendors without first consulting with your coordinator. Most wedding coordinators have preferred vendors that they have worked with previously and can attest to their service. Check with your coordinator to see if they have a preference on vendors for you to consider.

4. Don’t designate someone to be your “go between” for you and your coordinator.

While it might be tempting to find someone to act as the “go between” for you and your coordinator because you are super busy, don’t do it! This is your wedding; therefore, it is important for you to find time in your schedule to meet with your coordinator to ensure that your wedding is everything you’ve always dreamed it would be.

5. Don’t purchase items for you wedding on a whim.

When shopping for items for your wedding, such as welcome bags, favors, and décor, don’t purchase everything you see. Not only does it add up quickly when you purchase every item that you come across that you like, but often times they don’t match the theme or décor that you’ve decided upon for your wedding. Only purchase items that will fit in with your chosen theme.

6. Don’t let your bridesmaids pick their own dresses.

While it might be tempting to give your bridesmaids free reign on picking the dress that they wish to wear, don’t do it. It is best to give them guidance to ensure that there is a cohesive look in your photos. Choose a certain color or two in a certain designer’s line of dresses, and then allow for them to pick their own style. Give input on your desired neckline and length, but let them pick a dress that they will feel comfortable in.

7. Don’t give your wedding party gifts that they have to use/wear as part of your wedding.

When you give your wedding party a “thank you” gift that they have to use or wear as part of your wedding, that is not considered a gift. That is called “accessorizing” your wedding party and not thanking them for being an integral part of your special day.

8. Don’t skip on setting up wedding registries.

Couples will sometimes skip setting up wedding registries in the hopes of getting cash instead of actual gifts. Don’t be fooled by this notion, as your guest won’t be fooled  either. Not to mention it is extremely bad etiquette. If your guest wishes to give cash, they will do so. If you don’t wish to receive gifts, say something creative on your announcements that conveys your wishes.

9. Don’t invite the same wedding guest to multiple bridal showers.

The only exception to this advice is if they are immediate family members or a part of the wedding party. When you invite the same guest to multiple showers, it comes across as gift grabbing and your guest will feel overburdened by having to purchase multiple gifts.

10. Don’t put off doing the things your coordinator needs you to accomplish.

While it might be tempting to put off doing things that your coordinator needs to you do, falling prey to the notion that you have an entire year to write your wedding vows, or decide on your wedding playlist. As your wedding day approaches, and you find all your spare time filled with wedding showers, writing thank you cards, bachelorette parties, and completing all the finishing touches for your wedding; those items that your coordinator advised you to accomplish early on will come back to haunt you.

At Sisti & Co, we understand that planning a wedding is fun, exciting and stressful all at the same time. Our professional wedding planner can help you to stay on track and ensure that your wedding goes off without a hitch. Contact us today to learn how we can help you plan your dream wedding!